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Cyber Grooming: How It Starts and How to Break It
Grooming is a process, not an event. Knowing the stages is what lets a parent or teacher interrupt it early.
CyberSafeTT · 6 February 2025 · 7 min read
Online predators rarely begin with anything alarming. They begin with attention, patience and flattery, usually inside games, direct messages and comment threads a child already trusts.
The stages
- Targeting, finding a child who seems lonely, bored or in conflict at home.
- Trust-building, shared interests, gifts, in-game currency, constant availability.
- Isolation, 'our secret', moving to a private app, discouraging other friendships.
- Desensitising, sexualised jokes, then images, framed as normal.
- Control, threats to expose what has already been shared (sextortion).
Warning signs
- New online 'friend' the child cannot describe in real-world terms.
- Unexplained gifts, credit or game currency.
- Secrecy, screen-hiding, new apps or a second account.
- Mood swings tied to being online; withdrawal from family.
If it is already happening
- Reassure the child that they are not in trouble, shame is the predator's main tool.
- Stop all contact; do not pay, do not send more images.
- Preserve everything: profiles, chats, usernames, payment requests.
- Report to the platform and to the TTPS Cybercrime Unit immediately.
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